should i be worried mt husband has a sex toy
My husband recently admitted to me that he has a sex toy he keeps hidden. I must say, I was quite shocked and more than a little appalled. Is this something I should be worried about and if so, what should I do?
Well, first things first. I had to take a few deep breaths and remind myself that this is not unusual. Sex toys are a very common way for couples and individuals to explore their sexuality and enhance their ‘bedroom experience’. I know this but still, the shock of finding out that my husband has a secret stash was huge.
My immediate thoughts were all over the place. Is he seeing someone else? Does he not find me attractive anymore? It took me a while to compose myself and figure out what I wanted to say. I was determined not to come across as judgmental or make him feel guilty.
In the end, I just tried to be understanding and sensitive to the situation. I asked him how long he’s had the toy and why he decided to get it. I never expected the answers I got. My husband actually told me that he wanted to include something a little ‘extra’ in our sex life. He wasn’t looking to replace me or anything of the sort. He wanted to spice things up, try something new and explore untouched territories as a couple.
It’s funny because all of my initial worries and insecurities suddenly started the melt away. I started to feel a little naughty, thinking what the two of us could do together with his new toy and I nearly asked him about it right then and there. But I remain composed, because I was not quite ready to explore this new side of our relationship – at least not yet.
That being said, I’m still not sure how I feel about this. On one hand, I don’t want to be too judgmental and I completely understand his motivation. On the other, I’m still a little uncomfortable with the idea. I know now that my husband isn’t looking to replace me – but is this something that I should really be okay with?
The truth is that I haven’t come to a definite conclusion yet. I’m still trying to process all my thoughts and figure out how I really feel. I suppose it will just take some time. I’m just thankful that my husband was so understanding and open to talking about it. I suppose for now, I should just take it one step at a time.
I guess the bottom line for me is that I don’t think I need to worry too much about this. While the idea of my husband having a sex toy still takes a bit of getting used to, I think I’m going to stop worrying about it. We are far too committed to each other and our relationship is rock solid. So what’s the harm in exploring all the options that come along with an adventure into the unknown?
That doesn’t mean I’m completely ready to jump in with both feet. I am sure I will have plenty of reservations and worries as I make my way through this uncharted territory. However, I am confident that I can find ways to tackle my fears as I take this journey with my husband.
Sex toys can be a great addition to any couple’s sex life. They can add an element of spice and excitement that may have been missing in a certain aspect of the relationship. This does not mean that anything is wrong. It simply suggests that couples are exploring all the options available to them and discovering how it can add flavor sex toys to their love life.
I may not be jumping for joy because of my husband’s newfound hobby, but I am certainly not averse to it either. It has only been a few days since I found out about the sex toy and my thoughts are still settling in. I might not have had the easiest of reactions initially, but I understand now that it doesn’t have to have a negative impact on our marriage. I just have to take it one step at a time and ensure that my husband and I keep communicating. Hopefully then, this new addition to our bedroom will be a positive and constructive experience.